Release Motherhood Overwhelm: You Deserve to Thrive
I help mothers who are struggling to cope with endless expectations to break free from the cycle of guilt, perfectionism and overwhelm so they can mother and live with more joy.
My clients struggle as you do. Despite wanting to be a mum and loving their children, life is hard. When they first come in, they feel exhausted and pulled in different directions with meeting everyone else’s needs, running the home and going to work. They believe they should be able to do it all but feel like they are doing nothing well and wonder why it feels so hard.
They worry what other people think of them and their mind works over-time criticising themselves, second-guessing decisions and dwelling on mistakes. They feel guilty when they sit down with a cup of coffee instead of doing something productive, bad when they snap at the kids instead of staying calm and lazy when they cook a meal from the freezer instead of cooking from scratch.
They can’t help comparing themselves to other mothers especially those who seem to have it all together and are nailing motherhood in the ways they wish they were. They want to be an organized, patient, fun mum who feels confident and happy and is able to maintain her balance while managing the ‘juggle’ of doing it all. They think that the reason why they are not the mum they want to be is because there is something wrong with them.
Their feelings of inadequacy make them try harder so they can finally feel like they are enough. They’ve tried the latest hacks to keep on top of their to-do list, self-care routines to reduce their overwhelm and parenting advice to manage their children’s big emotions but all this does is add to their mental load and feelings of guilt and overwhelm.
They feel alone and unable to talk to friends and family about how much they are struggling. Finding the words to express how they are feeling without sounding silly and weak feels impossible. They worry about boring people with their problems and being judged so they pretend they are fine.
The pressure of meeting endless expectations gets in the way of the life they want in so many ways. They aren’t the kind of person they want to be. They feel like they’re failing as a mother, a partner and a friend. Their confidence in themselves is crumbling.
Before they came to see me, they saw their struggle to cope as evidence that they are a failure. They believed that they should be able to cope and that they shouldn’t be complaining but bottling everything up was taking its toll.
Like my clients you deserve to feel heard, supported and valued.
You deserve to go through each day without self-doubt and self-criticism weighing you down.
You deserve to thrive as much as every-one else in your family.
Knowing you are not a failure and that you are enough is within your reach. If you want to feel less guilt and overwhelm and more joy, I would love to help you get there.